About Lady Hecate

Greetings, friends!

I welcome you all to my page and trust you will have a lot of fun here, and perhaps learn a thing or two.

I have always been a dominant woman. From an early age, I was told I was bossy, so I turned that into a successful management career. Guiding people and yes, even telling them what to do felt so damn good. In the Board Room, I was a queen. I found that I was naturally bringing this behaviour into the bedroom. My life as a Domme seemed to grow by itself.

Then my entire life changed. 12 years ago, I was raped violently in my own home. He beat me senseless and I was lucky to have survived. The bruises, blood and bite marks were nothing compared to the psychological torture that followed. Feelings of worthlessness and shame. Disgrace and self loathing. I am always stunned that the abused are made to feel more shame than the abusers. After a stay in hospital, I pressed charges and realised my nightmare had only just begun. For the next 2 years, I was forced to relay every horrific detail of my story to numerous police officers and lawyers and all to no avail – he was found not guilty of all charges and lives in the unsuspecting community even now.

It is easy to see how a woman’s sexual identity would be forever altered after an event like that, but I fought hard to not allow him to take everything from me. I became far more dominant. I made sure I was always the one in control. Naturally, the dynamics are different for every relationship, but a clear position of dominance, power and control gives me what I need for my sexuality to flourish. I am now very clear about what I want in life and could not be happier.

Before launching this website, I spent a lot of time on social media sites with two main goals:

• Teaching people about what BDSM really is and
• Helping rape survivors reclaim their sexuality

Since mainstream social media has an attitude about BDSM, I figured I would be able to help more people if I branched out. So here we are. Pour yourself a glass of wine or a cup of tea and let’s play!