The proud, peacock of a Dominant is rarely one to admit that they “need” anything, really. We’re fine. Self sufficient. Just fine. But scratch the surface and you will see that we have emotional needs just as our submissives do. We are often the last to admit to these, not wanting to appear weak, but though our emotional needs are as important as yours, they are often quite different.

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    SirDJ  December 21, 2014 at 8:10 pm

    Phenomenal article. You have captured, what I believe, is the essence of a true Dominant’s emotional and mental mindset during a scene. Yes, I listen to every whimper, gasp, moan, and watch every body part for a twitch, jerk, wiggle to analyze my performance and her response to every scene. That is a responsible Dominant, but the feedback is crucial to our, oh so sensitive egos, I think sometimes that gets overlooked. I know that I strive every day to be better at my craft, and can only accomplish this with the proper data input from my submissive. Yes, I detest appearing anything resembling weak, but I also do not consider it weakness to be so in tune to my sub that I require communicated information to continue to grow myself and to continue to grow her. Acknowledgement of a job well done goes a long way to keep the inner fire burning in a Dominant and make Him/Her strive for Greatness more and more everyday!

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    10th Muse  December 29, 2014 at 5:01 pm

    A healthy sense of Self-esteem/Ego this the most crucial aspect of emotional balance in a Dominant..(and maybe even a submissive? )

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    GinnaMay  January 4, 2015 at 6:48 am

    What a fantastic article. Every part of this is 100% true.

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